10 trips to take in your 20s

Travelling the world certainly doesn’t come with an age limit, however your 20s really are the perfect time to get out there – it’s the decade where you have the least amount of responsibility and most amount of freedom. Plus they’re the years where you’re willing to sacrifice comfort for the challenges and adventures that come with budget travelling and backpacking! Personally I can’t imagine myself wanting to share a $5 a night dorm with 10 20-somethings when I’m 50 years old- but that’s just me.

Deciding to travel around the world in my 20s was the best decision I could have made, it opened my heart and broadened my mind in more ways than I could ever have hoped – and the adventures that came with it were unparalleled. After the chaos of COVID-19 subsides and the international borders open, here are just a few of the amazing affordable trips I recommend you taking. The world is still out there waiting for you – so get dreaming, start planning and begin saving!

In no particular order:

Follow the gringo trail through Latin America

Guatemala

This is a big one and maybe a trip worth saving for when you have the time – as you need at LEAST 6 months if you want to visit most countries. Follow the trail from Mexico through Central America before moving onto South America. Whether you start in Brazil or Guatemala, it really is one of the most exciting, challenging and culturally rich trips in the world and a must-do for any traveler seeking real adventure.

Explore Europe by train

This is a more attractive option if you’re not quite ready for a Latin American adventure. Interrailing around Europe is seen as a right passage for people in their late teens and early twenties and with good reason. Get on a train with your pass and you can go almost anywhere in Europe; visit the canals of Amsterdam, the remnants of the Berlin Wall or visit the beautiful buildings of Prague within a matter of days! If you don’t fancy the train life, hire a car or overland it with buses and you will have just as good as an experience. Every country has something unique to offer and it certainly isn’t just about drinking your way around Europe…although the beer halls of Munich are 100% worth a visit!

Voyage across the spectacular vistas of Iceland

This may be less budget-friendly but certainly a trip worth doing if you only have a couple of weeks to spare and depending on what time of the year you plan to visit you’ll be able to find great deals on flights and accommodation. 

Iceland is a place of mystery, with earthy landscapes of distinct beauty and endless vistas of green mountains, volcanic sand and cascades of water. With reliable infrastructure and accessibility, Iceland is the perfect destination for a road trip adventure. You may even catch a glimpse of the northern lights if you’re there during the winter months!

Discover the endless wonder of South-East Asia

There is no better time to see South-East Asia than in your twenties; it is by far one of the easiest and most welcoming areas of the world to travel around and if you’re new to the backpacker life and feeling a little nervous  – you’ll never be far from a familiar voice because this is a very popular circuit for British, European and Australian backpackers. Whether you’re here for three weeks or three months, there is much to see and enjoy; from exploring the lush green territories of Vietnam to lazing on Thailand’s island beaches and maybe even hiking active volcanoes in Indonesia – there is something for every kind of traveller and with everything being considerably cheaper than at home (food, alcohol, transport etc) you’ll find that your experiences and money will go much further than you expected.

Trek to Everest Base Camp

Everyone should complete one amazing trek in their life and Everest Base Camp should be at the top of any hikers list. The trek is more affordable than you may imagine (£1,500 with a little more for flights) and whilst it requires a decent level of fitness – you don’t need to be a world class athlete to complete it. You will finish the trek with memories and friendships to last a lifetime and a real sense of achievement having walked amongst the giants of the Himalaya and having witnessed the highest point of this earth with your own eyes. A must-do for any person looking for a soul-searching adventure, not just a bucket list check.

Find your way to the famous Citadel Machu Picchu

Whilst we’re on the subject of great walks, this list wouldn’t be complete without a journey to the famous Inca Citadel of Machu Picchu. Whether you decide to do the historic Inca Trail or the physically demanding and equally visually stunning Salkantay Trek, these epic multi-day treks to Machu Picchu will leave you with an appreciation and respect for the cultural heritage of Peru and its beautiful mountain regions. The Salkantay route is perfect for travelers on a budget or who have arrived in Peru without a plan ( you can book the Salkantay trek a few days in advance whilst the Inca trail requires bookings almost a year in advance). No matter the trek you decide to take, your efforts will be rewarded with a trip back in time to see how the Inca people lived and thrived during the 15th Century. And if you get there for sunrise, prepare yourself for a magical experience like no other!

Drive the East Coast of Australia

From Melbourne all the way up to Cairns – this significantly famous route is popular with backpackers and young travelers all over the world and you can see why. Explore the wonder of Australia’s east coast and enjoy a mix of buzzing modern cities, adrenaline activities, chilled beach towns, sandy havens and some of the world’s most beautiful coastlines. Though this isn’t the most budget-friendly of the trips on this list, if you’re wise with your money you can make it go far. Australia isn’t cheap but the memories you make will be priceless!

Head to Middle Earth for the adventure of a lifetime

If rocky mountain vistas are more your cup of tea, head to New Zealand! Consider a working holiday visa to help support yourself whilst in the land of the long white cloud because similarly to Australia, NZ isn’t cheap. Having said that, it’s worth every penny saved – take your time exploring this incredible country and soak up its natural wonders, pacific coastline beaches, endless mountain ranges and lush greenery. I’d recommend renting or buying your own cheap car to get around and really explore the two islands at your own pace – especially if you’re a Lord of the Rings fan. No trip to New Zealand would be complete without ticking off all of those stunning film locations! Remember to pack for every season and stock up on that factor 50 as the sun in this part of the world takes no prisoners…

For the bold and daring…a motorbike loop through Northern Vietnam

This is really one for those daring travelers looking for an adrenaline adventure like no other and there is no better way to feel the winds of freedom than on a 4 day motorbike loop through the wild mountain passes of north Vietnam. The Ha Giang Loop is cheap and very popular with young travelers – even if you feel too nervous (or too sane) to do it on your own, you can just hop on the back of an “easy rider” who is sort of like an experienced motorbike tour guide and they will safely get you around the 4 day loop. As these excursions are arranged through the same company, you’ll be among other travelers and staying in the same huts along the way and therefore a unique opportunity to make new friends, share food and drink and make memories that will last long after you’ve returned home.

For a cultural awakening like no other – head to Japan

Spend three weeks enjoying the rollercoaster that is Japan; get lost in the electric mayhem of Tokyo, hop on the Shinkansen and feel the weightlessness of riding the world’s fastest and most efficient trains. Explore the streets of Ancient Kyoto and perhaps catch a glimpse of a real Geisha, witness Mt Fuji with your own eyes, eat your weight in Gyoza and Ramen, visit the historical sites of Hiroshima and find your Zen in the green highlands of Nikko. Japan is a land of both immense history and futuristic bliss, the contrast alone is enough to make you fall in love with it. If you’re looking for the ultimate cultural awakening, this is the place to come to.

The world is still out there waiting to be explored and whilst the future may seem uncertain and foggy as COVID remains prevalent, the borders will ultimately open again and countries will need conscientious travelers to help lift up their economies. Keep dreaming of those distant lands and start planning your own post-COVID adventure, it is never too early or too late to go!

Jessica Green

I have been travelling the world solo since March 2019. I’m currently “stuck” in New Zealand because of COVID. Follow me on Instagram for all of my updates – I’m always happy to make new connections!

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The art of eating alone: me, myself and a bowl of ramen

I looked down at the bowl, positioning the chopsticks between my fingers and stirring the ramen around and around in a clockwise motion in the hopes of distracting myself a little longer. The restaurant was local and small with single pane windows to the outside that revealed it was raining heavily, the daylight fading with a sudden haste and mixed with the humidity of the summer air – created a blurred view of the world on the other side. I could barely make out the shadows of people moving back and forth in the low red lights outside. Kyoto felt surprisingly quaint for its size, nestled with little alleys to hide yourself in, perfect for someone like me looking for a spot to eat away from the masses that congregated in the city. I looked up from my meal again for what felt like the 20th time, I still wasn’t being watched, much to the dismay of my internal anxiety demon. I was alone and totally inconspicuous. It wasn’t my first time eating alone on this solo trip but it was the first time I had come face to face with the great culinary adversary; the chopstick, which added another layer of stress to my situation. I took a final deep breath, looked down at my meal for one, chopsticks at the ready – and began.

On my travels in Japan I discovered that so much of the intrigue of its culture lay in its embrace of solitude. Meals (contrary to how I’d been raised) didn’t have to be shared amongst friends, family or colleagues and that to eat alone was very common. Where I come from the restaurant experience is quite the opposite; it is a social transaction. You dine out to converse, to laugh, to be around other humans; it is a communal experience, therefore the idea of dining alone can seem unfamiliar and even terrifying to a lot of people. The first time I found myself in a position where I had to eat alone at a restaurant when travelling was a peculiar one indeed.

Waves of paranoia would often circulate around my mind when I first began travelling alone and had to come to terms with eating by myself in a relatively formal setting.

“Is this weird? Are people looking? Does it look like I don’t have friends? Do I look lonely? Wait…am I lonely?

I wondered whether other diners felt sorry for me, in fact I convinced myself they did. We’ve all felt it at some point, sympathy that is, for the person dining alone in a crowded restaurant regardless of their reasons for doing so. But it’s not like I hadn’t eaten alone before – however I saved this for the likes of small cafes; perhaps a panini or muffin with my coffee whilst I kept my head buried in a book. It was different, it was casual. And yet how different was it really? I’ll admit that eating alone wasn’t a regular occurrence and I nearly always found fellow travelers to dine with, other individuals searching for the comfort blanket of another to eat and converse with – just the same as me. However when I did eat alone, it took a while for me to become comfortable with it and I always relied on the crutch of an object to fill the gap that another person would; a book, my journal, my phone – they helped, they were safe.

This fear and anxiety changed when I travelled to Japan, which introduced me to a space where I could eat alone comfortably without care. I know that from popular culture and word of mouth that I was supposed to find Japanese cities overbearing and stressful. But I didn’t, finding more corners and alleys of quietness in hectic areas than I expected. In Tokyo, every other street offered a small haven away from the chaos of the city life – small restaurants where worker bees could grab a quick bite to eat without the need to talk to another person. It was normal to eat alone. To the average person, that may seem very lonely and depthless. But it was this quietness, this secluded realm of eating in private amongst a sea of others doing the exact same that eased me into an enjoyment of dining alone. I was just another person. There was comfort in that, which gave me enough strength to walk into a small local eatery in Kyoto, perch myself on a stool at a high table and order a bowl of ramen – without my phone, book or journal to lean on. I simply sat there, imitating the persona of a person who seemed comfortable in their aloneness, despite feeling anything but.

I’ve never been comfortable with the theory of “fake it till you make it” in any circumstance, but it did work.

Naturally my mind worked tirelessly to make me feel as though this was an unnatural thing worth being drawn attention to – but nobody else was watching me, not even the server (who only glanced up every now and again to honour me with a polite smile). I relaxed into it, this was fine, this was normal – my anxiety easing and an unusual sense of confidence and contentment came over me. Even if I was being watched, what was the issue in what I was doing? I was hungry, just like anyone else with an empty belly at 8pm. My eyes searched the quaint room, there were two other people in there sitting separately; local men with their heads buried in their ramen bowls, ravenously slurping up their noodles with ease and confidence. Seeing this made me realise how much the anxiety of eating alone actually comes from a place of not being comfortable with your own company. A big part of my journey as a single woman travelling the world alone was to become not just comfortable but happy with my aloneness and I hadn’t really understood that the enjoyment of eating played a role in this. I loved eating and I loved being with people, but I also had a strong introverted quality that made me someone who loved being alone too, more often than not. And yet somehow I hadn’t managed to make the bridge between my aloneness and eating, until now, 6 months into my solo trip.

My bowl arrived with a smile and polite bow from my server. It was a welcoming bowl of chicken ramen, the steam of the broth filling my nose with a warm invite. And so I ate, for the first time without a book perched next to me to occupy my eyes, folding up the noodles using a technique I’d adapted over the last few days, focusing my efforts on every mouthful. The aromas were delicious. I looked up occasionally to the blurred world outside, which was moving slower now, the sky an obvious indigo and the red lights of Kyoto glowering deeper as I took my time to enjoy my meal in a welcomed silence.

It became clear to me that eating alone was in fact a practice of slowing down and appreciating the small moments I had to myself where I could reflect on my day or simply forget about everything for a while. For the first time I didn’t need a book to lean on or my phone to lead me into a false sense that I wasn’t totally alone. And I didn’t want to either, it was a rare moment where I wasn’t totally fixated on my aloneness, in fact I welcomed it. As terrifying as I thought it was going to be, it made me realise how much I enjoyed a stolen few minutes of contentment, of being happy in my own company and for it to be enough – in the chaos and stress of travelling the world. It was just me, myself and a delicious bowl of ramen, caught in a moment of untroubled calmness.
And believe it or not my meal tasted better because I took the time to enjoy it without worrying about anything or anyone else around me.
I spent the rest of my Japan travels in similar fashion, often dining alone and sometimes with others, but always with the confidence of someone happy with herself – and it helped me to make peace with the fact that this was part of the journey, this is what it meant to be a solo traveler.

Eating alone may not seem like that big of an achievement until you find yourself in that position feeling as exposed as you could possibly feel. It takes practice. It isn’t always comfortable and sometimes you just want to dash in and out, wolfing down your meal as quickly as humanly possible through fear of being judged by total strangers. It takes a great amount of courage and self-acknowledgement. But with a little practice, those anxieties break away and you find that it feels less like a social nightmare and more like an opportunity to really slow down, reflect and simply be. Maybe you’ll need a book to keep you company to start with and that’s okay, eventually you won’t need anything at all but yourself – the world becomes background noise, and there is joy in sitting alone with a good meal.

There is an art to eating alone. And it begins with being content in your aloneness.

why women travel alone

Travelling alone around the world (regardless of your age or gender) is a hugely brave and life-defining thing to do. It takes an obscene amount of courage and every individual journey is as wonderful as it is challenging.

However the very act of travelling alone holds much more weight for women because the dangers of travelling alone are generally more considerable. It is the vulnerability of travelling alone that deters many young women from taking the leap themselves and unfortunately, most of us still live in a world where women are likely to become the victims of crime, the reality of which can happen in our homes and neighbourhoods so naturally the thought of taking that risk thousands of miles away from home may feel like one not worth taking.

Why then, despite all of these potential threats and heeds of warning do women continue to travel solo?

There are countless reasons as to why so many women travel by themselves; to heal a broken heart, to work through a life crisis, and often it’s because our lives have become stagnant and we need an injection of vitality into our otherwise normal lives. But through all of that there is a desire to assert our selves in a world that is constantly telling us no.

“No, you can’t do that job.”
“No, you can’t wear that, you’ll attract the wrong attention.”
“No, it’s not safe for you travel there as a woman.”

It’s this fear of the unknown and the rhetoric of warnings that propel women to travel alone anyway. It gives women freedom above all else; freedom to slow down, enjoy the view and breathe the air. Freedom to prioritize yourself above anyone else. Freedom to live every day on your own terms; you’re not bound by anyone or anything, giving you room to address your own needs. Travelling alone gives you the space to explore your sensory pleasures; to eat and indulge, love voraciously, to experience culture through a different lense and to feel the weightlessness and empowerment that comes with the territory of travelling solo. It gives you the gift of choice – every decision you make is yours and the path you take is yours alone. This kind of individualism may feel daunting and overwhelming, but it teaches you how to be comfortable in your aloneness, and you will return from a solo trip feeling more confident in yourself as a woman. There will be no obstacle you can’t overcome and no mountain too high for you to climb, and it’ll encourage you to become the most fierce and independent versions of yourself.


Roys Peak, Wanaka

I reached out to some of the amazing and strong women who I’ve met on my travels and during my early 20s to get their insight into solo travel; why they do it, what they’ve learned about themselves and why they would never change their experiences for the world. So if any woman (young or old) out there need inpiration to take that leap and book a solo trip, here they are:

“Yes, I will always do it again and will keep doing this for as long as I want. Travelling alone taught me the most in life so far and how to love and accept myself. I developed a peace for life in the process and made mindset changes that will never leave me. That is the best decision I ever made in life.”

Sophia

“I think the best thing is the freedom and that you don’t depend on anyone, you can change your plans easily; if you feel like staying the whole day in bed you can do it or if you suddenly decide to join someone and spontaneously go somewhere else – you can. The best advice is to be open minded and not afraid of some difficulties. Shit happens and yes there are some bad people out there, but the amount of amazing people you meet on your way is so much bigger. Stay in hostels, talk to everyone and have the time of your life!

Ksenia

“I love that travelling alone challenges me in so many ways and gets me out of my comfort zone. It really helped me with becoming more confident around other people and accepting myself just the way I am. In the last nine months I learned to listen to my body and soul, and to only listen to the things that make me happy, and that anything is possible if I only set my mind to it. As scary as travelling alone as a young woman sounds, I would never have had such amazing experiences nor met so many great people if I hadn’t gone alone and I will definitely not stop exploring the world anytime soon. I am happy that I’m not this shy and insecure girl anymore, but an independent, self-loving woman. I have friends in every part of the world now and being aware of what I have achieved in these past months and what challenges I have mastered makes me incredibly proud of myself and I am really looking forward to my future travels.”

Anna

“My time in Japan was more than just exploring a beautiful country. I wasn’t just walking through foreign places, I was exploring parts of myself that I’d never allowed to surface before. My self-assurance grew, my independence and my ability to live life at a day’s notice, rather than a meticulously planned year in advance. It awakened a love for travel, for creating bonds with other people i’d have never met otherwise, for learning new languages and, perhaps most pertinently, I began to love who I was, what I would become and what I had to offer others.”

Lauren

“Solo travelling made me more confident – before doing it I would have felt very self-conscious sitting alone in a restaurant or just going up to a group of people and introducing myself… It is one of the most freeing experiences you can have as a woman. Advice for other women wanting to do the same: sadly there are more dangers that statistically affect women while travelling solo than men but it’s such a freeing experience so go with the flow! Also don’t put pressure on yourself to have fun all the time. Instagram makes it look like solo travelling is all rainbows and smiles but there are some real challenges and there are days where you won’t want to go out and explore. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself – you’re there for you and if one day you want to stay in bed – that’s okay!

Faye

So what are you waiting for?!

Sadly this sort of freedom doesn’t extend to women everywhere, many women are still fighting for basic equality – so if you are in a privileged position where you have to power to travel wherever you want, I urge you to seize that opportunity. Stop waiting around for the right person to do it with and go out and discover just how life-affirming and incredible it is to do it on your own. You’ll discover what you’re made of, make memories and friends for life and really come to understand who you are as an individual and your power as a woman.

I know travel is limited right now in this pandemic, but I hope this blog gives you some food for thought and encourages you to start planning your own solo trip when the world resembles some level of normality and you can catch a flight again! In the meantime, why not take a short trip in your own country? It is the best way to ease yourself into travelling alone. Visit a new city, go on a multi-day hike, live like a hermit for a few days in a small cottage somewhere in the middle of nowhere, embrace yourself and focus on you. Be selfish – you’ve earned it.

Jessica Green

I have been travelling solo around the world since March 2019. Check out my Instagram @jessicamaygreen below, I’m happy to answer any questions or have a chat with like-minded people!

A year on the road: everything I’ve learned from travelling the world solo

A little over a year ago I began travelling around the world alone. I quit my comfortable job, said goodbye to family and friends and boarded a one-way flight to Mexico with nothing but a 18kg backpack as my companion and only myself to depend on. I was nothing if not terrified. I had planned a basic route, booked a few nights in a hostel and the rest I would figure out on the way. I didn’t feel ready and I thought i’d be back at home within a month. A year on, i’m still travelling solo! In 12 months i’ve travelled through 18 countries and borders and now find myself settled in Hawkes Bay, New Zealand, feeling effervescently accomplished, happy and at peace with my past, myself and my unpredictable life.

Travelling the world as a young woman alone has altered my life forever.  It has been the most character-building and life-enriching thing I’ve ever done. This past year has taken me from a place of sadness and has taught me the value of life, courage, adventure, friendship, love in all of its forms and weaving through all of that like an imperishable thread, happiness.  I’ve lived fully and voraciously, falling back in love with life and in the process myself. I could talk endlessly about every country i’ve visited, instead I want to share with you what i’ve learned this year in the hope that it will inspire you (no matter your age or circumstance) to take your own solo trip.

Before

I started this solo adventure because at 24 I’d reached a difficult crossroad in life. I felt unfulfilled in my career, lacking creative drive and saw myself as a failure next to my friends who were excelling in their careers, buying houses and getting engaged etc. I was battling an eating disorder, anxiety and depression had crept back into my life and I was continuing to rely on unhealthy mechanisms to process traumas I hadn’t yet made peace with.  Nearly all of this transpired as a result of heartbreak. I was still punishing myself and struggling with the worst break-up of my life and I felt like I was drowning in my own despair. It was never my dream to travel the world alone, and I haven’t been shy about how my own adventure materialised as a result of my relationship ending. In truth I’ve probably exhausted the story to anyone who would listen, but without that heartbreak – I wouldn’t have achieved any of this nor be the woman I am today. One of the hardest most painful lessons of my life would turn out to be the biggest blessing, paving the way for an extraordinary journey. 

The honest truth of it all is that I had become a ghost of myself when I was with my ex. We weren’t good for each other and no matter how much time, love and energy I poured into him and our relationship, it was never enough. I was slowly drained of goodness and yet I continued to give everything. I had put all of my hope into this dream of travelling the world with him that I was blinded by the hard reality; that he simply did not feel as strongly about me as I did about him. I found myself in the end fighting for a one-sided relationship, he wanted to travel the world “alone” and I lacked the confidence and self-worth to walk away knowing that I deserved a better partner. After months of emotional manipulation, pushing and pulling, of giving and giving just to receive nothing but empty words and callous behaviour – he ended us with a text message. It brought my already fragile world crashing down. I had become this person I didn’t recognize when we were together; paranoid, withdrawn, erratic, sad and without confidence. The break-up only made things worse, my walls went back up, I stopped eating, I struggled to reach out and I lost trust in people. Everybody knows how awful relationship break-ups can be but I didn’t just break, I shattered.

As you may have guessed, I was still hurting when I left for my travels. I hadn’t moved on, I was still mourning the loss of love and the dream of what could have been. I wasn’t leading with positivity or compassion, I was inexplicably lost and broken and a shadow of the bold and colourful person I used to be. Travelling has always been a concrete source of happiness in my young adult life, it grounds me in a way nothing else does and so in all of that confusion and chaos, I held onto the only small sense of direction and thing that brought me comfort; what an achievement it would be to travel around the world solo. In the months preceding, it was this courageous idea that pulled me out of a state of sadness and stagnation and into purpose. But even when I boarded that plane to Mexico, I had no idea then what I would achieve, see, do, or become. But now I know something;  time is a healer, travelling is a medicine, and a woman travelling the world alone is a force to be reckoned with. 

Lake Atitlan, Guatemala

Solo travel has taught me just how much courage and strength I hold within myself, and to never doubt it.

It has been the adventure of my life, but solo travelling hasn’t been without its dark and difficult moments. Travelling isn’t a holiday, no matter how simple and sophisticated travel influencers make it look. At times it has been stressful and full of ‘you couldn’t make this shit up’ moments and there have been a few occasions where i’ve wanted to give up. In the months leading up to my trip, people would tell me how brave and courageous they thought I was for travelling alone. I would smile and thank them, but inside I was screaming with self-doubt.

“Am I strong enough to do this? Can I actually do this?”

A lifetime of discrediting my abilities was weighing down on me so I didn’t understand the gravitas of what I was attempting or how others might have perceived it as a brave act. I didn’t want to believe that it required much courage or strength when in reality as this adventure has shown, it demanded everything and more from me. These 12 months have seen me grow from a person full of self-doubt to one who wears her strength boldly and fiercely like an armour.

I have been challenged and pushed to what I thought were my limits and then pushed beyond that. I’ve had to be brave in moments where i’ve had no other option. I’ve been mugged in Peru where all of my valuables were taken and I was left penniless, in a place where I didn’t have friends nor know the language. I’ve dealt with the worst sickness and diarrhoea on a tour of the highest Bolivian Salt Flats where I genuinely felt like I was dying, I’ve boarded local buses in Latin America where I doubted whether i’d even make it to my destination and I had my drink spiked one night, which left me feeling vulnerable and invaded, and I had no shoulder to cry on. I’ve opened myself up in social situations; there is almost nothing scarier than going up to a group of strangers in a hostel and asking with poker face confidence if you could join them for a drink. There have been times where I didn’t want to be strong. Sometimes I wanted to cry, I wanted someone else to make the decisions for me, I wanted to take the easy route and go home. But I never did, courage kept me moving. And in-between those exhausting moments I found those silver linings; I discovered how liberating it was to live everyday on my own terms, that I could make decisions without consulting another person and that it was my path and mine alone. It was empowering and freeing. In my loneliest moments I came to find comfort in leaning on myself and knowing that I was going to be okay because if I could get through those difficult moments alone, I could get through anything. And in this present, I am a stronger, capable and more self-reliant person. That is the power of solo travel, it brings out your most innate strengths without you even realising, giving you skills to help navigate through every obstacle in life.

“To live, will be an awfully big adventure.”

It hasn’t just been about difficult life lessons and hard times. It has been about life-defining moments, adventure and fun. 

Solo travelling around the world has cemented in me the kind of life I want to live with the finite amount of time I have on this earth; one full of adventure and taking chances and one where I enrich my life with experiences, not material things. Achieving what I’ve done as a young single woman, I hope it makes a difference to other young women out there who have been scare-mongered into believing that it’s “too dangerous” for them to travel the world solo. I’ve been fortunate enough to explore Central America (Mexico, Belize, Guatemala, Honduras, El Salvador, Nicaragua, Costa Rica), South America (Colombia, Peru, Bolivia, Argentina, Brazil) Asia (Japan, Vietnam, Cambodia, Thailand, Indonesia) and now New Zealand. 

I’ve trekked through the Andes to reach the mighty Inca ruins, Machu Picchu. I’ve sandboarded down an active volcano in Nicaragua, hitch-hiked to Belize, fell in love with the once most dangerous city on earth Medellin, Colombia.  I’ve learned to surf in the stunning but intimidating waters of El Salvador and rediscovered a love for food in Argentina and Brazil. Despite my lack of confidence on the road, I learned to ride a bike in Thailand and completed the most incredible motorbike loop through the mountains of Northern Vietnam, illegally hopping to China along the way. I’ve met Geishas in the ancient Japanese city of Kyoto and mastered the Tokyo subway system. I’ve spent many early mornings hiking up through mountains to witness the other-worldly sunrises of the earth, such as the one from the summit of Mount Batur in Bali on Christmas morning. I’ve chased sunsets from the Mayan ruins of Mexico to the Pacific shores of New Zealand, and every single one has reminded me of the beauty of days ending and beginning. I’ve lived a year of adventure and I achieved it all on my own. I’ve met some wonderful souls and many who have become friends for life through an unbreakable bond that only travelers will understand. I’ve connected with other beautiful women travelling solo, each bearing their own pain, their own story and their own reasons for going it alone. We’ve shared adventures, laughter, tears, and sometimes anger. A lot of the time, it isn’t just about the destination but the people you meet along the way who define your travel story. Travelling, whether you’re solo or not, opens up your mind, heart and soul, if you’ll allow it. A normal life will never be enough, and you’ll spend the rest of your life chasing sunsets. It has taken me out of a comfort zone where I never really felt like I belonged anyway and has introduced me to the endless possibilities of life, turning me into the storyteller of my own great adventure.

Growth

Through all of those moments of courage and risk-taking, of chasing sunsets and traversing continents, ticking off bucket list items, saying goodbye to old friends and meeting new ones, through every hard and joyous moment these 12 months have brought me, I have started to become the person that I really want to be in life. That person who was once heavy-hearted with zero self-worth has disappeared. Solo travelling has been a medicine and whether consciously or not, has encouraged me to face and conquer the self-destructive parts of myself that have halted me from living a full and happy life. For example I now try to lead with positivity not pessimism, not giving weight to small issues and obstacles because when you’re travelling alone, you adapt a “get on with it” attitude or you struggle to make it through the day. Life really is too short to worry over the small stuff and travelling does a beautiful job of revealing that to you. 

These 12 months have also begun to unravel years of people-pleasing tendencies that have led to me sacrificng my own needs and happiness for other people. I’ve let people take advantage of my vulnerabilities, silenced my own voice in fear of being branded too loud, and said yes simply because it was easier than justifying the reason behind ‘no’. Travelling alone has given me the confidence to say no without guilt. Anyone will tell you that one of the best things about solo travel is that you’re answerable to nobody but yourself. If you want to spend time with people you can, if you want to be alone for a while you can – you are entitled to your needs because this is YOUR time. It really has shown me how to assert my own boundaries with people and with myself. I’ve opted for my own company instead of (to put it bluntly) tolerating people who drain me and i’ve pulled myself out of situations and environments that do not benefit my mental health or happiness.
I’ve become comfortable and happy with my aloneness as both a traveler and as a single woman in her mid 20s, and i’ve gained some valuable life lessons about the kind of energies I allow into my life and the power they do or do not hold over me.This experience, needless to say, has reshaped me through every moment into someone who thrives in the chaos of life, who sees goodness in small things, and into someone who carries herself a little lighter.

Time is a healer, travelling is the medicine.

I didn’t expect this year of travel to heal me in the way it did, mature me or have it teach me everything I needed to know about love and letting go in my twenties. It has altered all of my rose-tinted expectations of love and has taught me how to find love in the places where the romantic kind is absent. I’ve finally (praise the lord) learned that the love of a man does not define my worth and that nobody is EVER worth sacrificing your happiness, self-respect or needs for. People come and go in your life like chapters – but you are the whole book and the relationship you have with yourself is the one consistent, constant thing.

I’ll never again wait around for or rely on the love of another person to feel whole.  I left for my travels feeling as though I needed romantic love to feel worthy or deserving and I slowly learned that there are many versions of love out there in the world; the love you find in new travel friendships, the people who come to inspire you and make you feel alive, who value your company and friendship. The love you find in the beauty of the world; through every sunset witnessed, mountain climbed and border crossed. And then of course the love you inevitably find in yourself; and that love will ALWAYS be enough. I’ve grown in confidence and happiness and strength and I have changed for the better. I’ve found it impossible to wallow in self-pity and anguish, or hold onto ghosts of the past, or feel anything less than a remarkable woman for doing this adventure alone. 

Let go and live

Solo travel encourages you to embrace the unpredictability of life, it is freeing and defining. It is a driving force that turns the art of letting go from a painful experience into a cathartic one. 

If this year has taught me one solid thing it’s that it’s okay to let go and move on; of any pain you are harbouring, of the mistakes you’ve made and the time lost, of all of the relationships that have turned ugly, of all of the people who were only meant to be mere chapters in your story,  of every bad or unfair thing that has happened to you and all of the things in life you cannot control or change. You must live instead of just survive – you have to let in light and goodness even when darkness is the most comfortable place to rest. Be daring and take chances, be passionate and surround yourself with people and places that make you happy and bold and adventurous. Be compassionate and warm even when you’re given every reason not to be. Let down your walls and open yourself up to the beautiful things in this world. Quit that job you feel lost in, there will always be more jobs. Take a deep breath and book that one-way flight, do something impulsive, try not to dwell on the consequences but of what could happen if you just did something courageous and new. Everything that is going to happen to you will happen, that’s just life. So let it happen and trust that following your own unique path is the right one for you, here and now, helping you to evolve into the person life intends you to be. 

Because here is what I do know.

All of the things that have happened to me in my past and everything that I’ve done, both bad and good – have led me to this colourful, unpredictable, challenging, extraordinary life. For that I am grateful, I am fulfilled and content, I am enough.

Jessica Green, wanderer.